My Life Lesson About Happiness

This weekend was a weekend that I walked away from feeling exhausted. I had to relearn a life lesson that keeps resurfacing in my life. I’m sure that one of these days, I’ll get it right…hopefully!

Here’s the lesson…I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR MY HAPPINESS…no one else.

Without airing all my dirty laundry, I have been going through a period in my life were I am being proactively attacked.

At first, it really bothered me. Like most people, I don’t like being lied about, and I don’t like being attacked. Sadly, this has been going on for a while now, and I have had plenty of time to learn healthy ways to deal with it.

I have learned that I can get upset about the stuff in my life that is less than perfect or I can be thankful for the stuff that is great. Usually…I choose to be thankful for the great.

Unfortunately, that’s not always the case and this weekend was one of those times. It wasn’t good. Let’s just be nice and say…I slipped up.

The short story is that I became aware of someone else who has been lying about me. This person is someone I genuinely care about, so it really hurt to hear. I ended up letting the news mess up my whole weekend.

Instead of focusing on all the amazing people and things in my life (and there are a lot of them), I kept thinking about what that person was saying about me and trying to figure out why.

I let the person who was lying about me steal my happiness. I was irritable all weekend and ended up lashing out a couple times at the person I love the most. That’s not good. Like I said, I slipped up.

So I said all that to say this…YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS…no one else.

It’s not your spouse’s job to make you happy. It’s not your kid’s job to make you happy. If you aren’t happy with a little, you won’t be happy with a lot.  If you can’t be happy when things go wrong, you won’t be happy when things go right.

Oh…I know…you think you will…but you won’t.

Things don’t make you happy. People don’t make you happy. Situations don’t make you happy. You choose to be happy or you choose not to. That’s on you.

This weekend…I screwed up. I had to say “I’m sorry” about 1000 times. I had to refocus my mind on the things that really matter. I had to relearn the life lesson that I am responsible for my happiness…not anyone else.

Hopefully, you can learn from my mistakes and stop looking outside of yourself for happiness. You won’t find it.