My Biggest Regret

Earlier this year, I found myself doing something I normally try not to do…I was thinking a lot about my past. Although I believe it’s important for each of us to reflect on the lessons from our past, I don’t recommend dwelling on what’s behind you. Thinking about your past too much is unhealthy, regardless of whether it was good or bad. Let me explain why.

Just like yours, my life has NOT been perfect…not even close. The younger version of me was very prideful, stubborn and learned EVERYTHING the hard way. In spite of that, I don’t have many regrets.

I see mistakes in life as an opportunity to improve. Mistakes are just growing points that help people become a better version of themselves. But if you don’t take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes, they most likely will turn into regrets.

Now, I didn’t say I have NO regrets. My biggest regret is that it took me a very long time to understand that life is about the process, NOT the results. It’s the journey, NOT the destination.

I’m a very driven person. Unfortunately, that means I have made the mistake of trying to get to whatever is next at the cost of where I am now. Have you ever done that? Have you ever told yourself “When I get…THEN I will be happy.” NO…You won’t!

Let me be very clear…if you aren’t happy with the process, you won’t be happy with the results. If your life is out of balance during your journey, your life will be out of balance at the destination. Things, people, achievements, money, stuff…NONE of that will make you happy.

I have said this to people over and over again…when you get to the end of your life, you aren’t going to wish you had worked more or that you had more stuff. Don’t get me wrong, I think you should work hard. I think you should try to squeeze every last ounce out of life, but life is about the journey. It’s NOT about an imaginary place where everything is perfect. It’s about enjoying NOW…today.

Life doesn’t start when you reach your next goal. Your life is happening right now. It’s the process. Enjoy it. This is not a practice life.